ADVICE – For single young men and women!

Men:
Your focus should not be on doing everything you can to get the woman you love. Don’t neglect to do everything you can to keep her as yours once she is happily in your hands. Just because she’s yours once doesn’t mean she can’t be yours. Don’t forget that the principle that you can’t keep something you don’t respect with you also applies in a romantic relationship.

Women:
When a man tells you that he wants you for love, knowing that you will not accept him back, making the situation with your friends a mood trap and a way to play with his emotions will lower your personality. In fact, knowing that you will accept the request later, instead of revealing your real needs in a timely manner, you are advised to leave the “let’s go and meet me” attitude.

Marriage Advice For Young Singles

Getting married at a young age comes with unique joys and challenges. While relationships take work at any stage of life, there are some considerations to keep in mind when contemplating marriage as a single young adult. Here are 40 pieces of marriage advice for single men and women in their 20s and early 30s:

  1. Be Financially Stable

Ideally, you should be financially independent before marriage. Have a stable job or source of income that can cover your own needs and expenses. Avoid marrying primarily for financial security.

  1. Pay Off Debt

Paying off debt before marriage reduces stress and financial strain on your new union. Focus on eliminating credit card balances, student loans and other high-interest obligations.

  1. Build Savings

Having an emergency fund provides financial security and peace of mind, helping you weather unexpected expenses or job loss as a couple. Aim for at least $10,000 in savings before marrying.

  1. Know Your Partner’s Financial Habits

Discuss spending habits, priorities, attitudes towards savings and debt with your partner. Compatible financial values and behaviors are vital to a healthy marriage.

  1. Wait for Emotional Maturity

Our 20s are a time of self-discovery and growth. Make sure you and your partner have developed independence, self-awareness and emotional stability before marrying.

  1. Focus on Friendship First

Found your relationship on a deep connection and true friendship. Prioritize sharing interests, values and experiences over romance and physical intimacy at first.

  1. Communicate Openly

Practice honest, vulnerable discussion of your feelings, needs, likes, dislikes and future visions before getting engaged. Communication skills take time to develop.

  1. Avoidcodependency

Healthy marriages require two independent individuals coming together to form a team. Avoid relying too heavily on your partner for fulfillment.

  1. Disagree Respectfully

How you fight matters more than what you fight about. Establish ground rules for disagreements that show care and respect for each other.

  1. Establish Expectations

Discuss sharing of household chores, childcare duties, schedules and priorities so you have a realistic idea of married life before tying the knot. Ignore assumptions.

  1. Consider Career Sacrifices

Long distance, shift work or travel may be required at times. How will career demands impact your relationship? Establish compromises early.

  1. Compromise Selfishly

Make concessions from a place of giving freely, not obligation. Avoid building resentments by compromising genuinely for mutual happiness.

  1. Know Yourself

Understand your needs, traits, weaknesses and strengths. Work on self-improvement throughout your 20s so you bring your best, most authentic self into a marriage.

  1. Maintain Independence

Foster your own interests, hobbies and friendships within the relationship. Too much togetherness too soon can create clinginess and codependency.

  1. Set Boundaries

Discuss what you are comfortable or uncomfortable sharing, how much time together vs apart works best, and what constitutes infidelity. Establish boundaries before issues arise.

  1. Avoid Jealousy

Work on self-confidence and trust. Jealous behaviors can be a sign of deeper issues and insecurity within yourself or the relationship.

  1. Don’t Rush Into Marriage

There’s no need to marry young just because “that’s what you’re supposed to do.” Take your time to discern if your partner is really “the one.”

  1. Experience Life Together

Travel, tackle challenges and achieve goals as a couple before legally binding your lives together. Test the strength of your partnership.

  1. Avoid Validation Seeking

Don’t marry to feel whole, worthwhile or loved. Build self-worth from within and choose your partner from a place of wholeness.

  1. Discuss Religion and Values

Make sure your views on morality, spirituality, politics and lifestyle align closely or complement each other. Differences can cause major issues later.

  1. Talk About Children

If kids are in your future, discuss how many, what values to impart, parenting philosophies and how roles will be divided before marrying.

  1. Avoid ‘Soulmate’ Trap

Your spousecannotmeet all your needs. Seek support from community, faith and interests outside marriage in addition to your partner.

  1. Prioritize Self-Care

Make time for your hobbies, friendships and physical/mental health needs within marriage. A happy partner is one who takes care of themselves first.

  1. Commit to Growth

Healthy marriages require both spouses to continually learn and improve. Commit to personal development even after saying “I do.”

  1. Make Time for Date Nights

Schedule weekly time with just your spouse to foster romance, intimacy and friendship within your relationship.

  1. Forgive and Let Go

Learn to release grievances in a healthy way. Holding onto resentments will erode trust and closeness over time. Practice forgiveness.

  1. Establish Sacred Time Alone

Set aside periods where you abstain from devices and focus only on connecting. Nourish your bond through quality time together.

  1. Practice Acts of Service

Do small things to ease your partner’s burden and show you care. Thoughtful gestures go a long way.

  1. Be Willing to Compromise

Partnership requires learning to “split the difference” on priorities, expectations and responsibilities. Equity matters more than equality.

  1. Allow Time to Adjust

Big changes like marriage and cohabitation take months or years to fully integrate into your relationship. Be patient and flexible.

  1. Celebrate Successes Together

Share in each other’s wins, no matter how big or small. Take part in your partner’s joys and triumphs.

  1. Support Each Other’s Goals

Be your partner’s biggest cheerleader. Offer guidance, resources and accountability to help them flourish as an individual.

  1. Express Gratitude Daily

Simple “thank yous” and statements of appreciation go a long way towards fostering a shared sense of value and worth.

  1. Practice Kindness in Conflict

When tempers flare, take a step back, breathe and respond versus react. Treat each other with patience and respect.

  1. Seek Professional Help

If issues arise, consider counseling as a young couple. An unbiased third party can offer valuable tools and strategies.

  1. Embrace Imperfections

Love your partner for who they truly are, flaws and all. Unconditional acceptance builds security within a relationship.

  1. Express Love in ‘His/Her Love Language’

Learn each other’s primary love language and speak it regularly: words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of service, physical touch.

  1. ‘Date’ Your Spouse

Court your partner like you did when you first fell in love. Keep romance and excitement alive through the years.

  1. Make ‘We’ Not ‘Me’

The healthy marriage maximizes “we” over “me.” Find happiness in meeting each other’s needs and pursuing shared goals.

  1. Live in the Moment

Cherish everyday moments large and small. This time will pass quickly – make the most of it while you can. Focus on living fully present together.

In summary, healthy marriages require hard work, compromise, growth and constant nurturing – especially when begun at a young age. But with open communication, trust, mutual respect and a willingness to keep romance and intimacy alive, many young couples find marital bliss sooner than they may have imagined. So keep these pieces of advice in mind as you contemplate the lifelong commitment of marriage. With care and effort, what begins as a partnership of convenience can mature into a union of true companionship.

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